Becoming a mother is a life-changing experience, not only for you but for your whole family. As you adjust to your new role, everyone around you will be adjusting too. This can sometimes lead to challenges, especially with extended family, as they navigate new roles and expectations. Open communication and setting clear boundaries can help your family understand how they can best support you. Here are some helpful tips to help you and your family grow closer, strengthen your bonds, and create a supportive environment for both you and your baby.

Different Choices

• Many new mothers in the U.S. are the first in their families to breastfeed.
• Previous generations often faced challenges, like pain or low milk supply, and without much support, many turned to formula feeding.¹
• This history may cause some relatives to feel concerned or frustrated when they see you choosing to breastfeed.
• While family members may share their own struggles with the best intentions, their well-meaning advice can sometimes add extra stress rather than support.

Building Understanding²

• Be open with your family about why you’re committed to breastfeeding.
• Share how breastfeeding helps your baby grow strong and healthy, and how it supports your long-term health as well.
• Reassure them that your choice isn’t a judgment of the choices they made in the past. Just as they did what they thought was best for their child, you’re doing the same for yours.
• Encourage your family to learn with you! Invite them to join a birth or breastfeeding class, or suggest a helpful book or podcast. Learning together can build understanding, strengthen your bond, and encourage shared support.

Family Dynamics and Boundaries²

• As you share your decisions with your family, pay attention to their reactions. If they disagree, gently redirect the conversation toward how they can help instead. For example, they could hold the baby while you take a break or help with household chores, giving you more time to focus on breastfeeding.
• If someone continues to criticize your choices, it’s important to set clear boundaries.
• Let your family know what’s best for both you and your baby, and don’t hesitate to step back from relationships that cause added stress. 
• Sometimes, taking a short break from a difficult situation can help you focus on what matters most—creating a calm, supportive environment where you can thrive in your breastfeeding journey.
• As you grow more confident in your new role and breastfeeding becomes a more routine part of your day, reconnecting with family may feel easier. 

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What If I Have Questions?

If you are interested in learning more, these Aeroflow classes expand on some of the topics discussed above:

• It Takes A Village
• Moms Circle

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