Being a new mom can feel overwhelming, especially when your baby is fussy. It’s completely natural to feel helpless and unsure of how to comfort them when they’re unsettled, uncomfortable, or crying. Please know that these feelings are common, and most babies go through phases of fussiness as they grow.^1,2,3 The good news is that there are gentle ways to soothe and comfort your baby during these tough moments. This guide offers simple, supportive strategies to help you bring comfort to your baby.^1,2,3 

Why Is My Baby SO Fussy?

Babies can cry or fuss for many reasons, and it may take time to figure out what’s bothering them.^1,2,3 Some common causes include:

• Hunger: Babies have tiny tummies and need to eat frequently—at least 8-12 times per day. They may act fussy and cry as a way of signaling hunger when it’s time for a feed. Crying is often a late hunger cue, so watch for earlier signs like lip smacking, rooting, or sucking on their hands to help reduce their frustration and feed them before they become too upset.
• Connection: Sometimes babies just need to be held close and comforted. They feel most calm and secure when they’re close to you.
• Discomfort: A wet diaper, gas bubbles, or needing to have a bowel movement can make your baby uncomfortable and fussy.
• Tiredness: Babies get fussy when they’re overtired. They may need some quiet time or a nap to reset.
• Overstimulation: Too much noise, activity, or new experiences can overwhelm your baby, causing fussiness.
• Growth Spurts: Around 3 weeks, 6 weeks, and 3 months, babies often go through growth spurts and may need to breastfeed more frequently to help increase your milk supply and meet their growing needs. Increased feeding can make them seem extra fussy, but these phases are temporary.
• Colic: Some babies cry intensely for no apparent reason, especially in the late afternoon or evening. This is sometimes called “colic” and usually improves after the first few months. 
• Teething: As babies start to teeth, sometimes as early as 3-4 months, they may experience discomfort from swollen gums, drooling, or other symptoms that can lead to fussiness and tears.

Comforting Your Baby

When your little one is fussy, it’s natural to want to help them feel better. Begin by checking their basic needs—hunger, discomfort, or tiredness—and then try some of these comforting techniques. Every baby is different, so what works for one may not work for another. Be patient, and keep experimenting with different methods until you find what helps your baby feel calm, secure, and loved. Here are a few ideas to try:^1,2,3

• Breastfeeding: Breastfeeding is more than just a way to feed your baby—it’s also a great way to soothe a fussy baby. Many babies want to breastfeed often, especially in the evening. If your baby isn’t interested, don’t worry, they may need something else.
• Comfort Sucking: Sometimes, babies just need to suck for reassurance. Offering your breast for comfort or using a pacifier when breastfeeding isn’t needed can help your baby feel secure and settled.
• Babywearing: Sometimes, your baby simply needs to be close to you. Wearing them in a soft carrier, sling, or wrap can provide the comfort and closeness they crave, helping them feel calm, secure, and loved.
• Motion: Gentle rocking, swaying, or softly bouncing your baby while holding them in your arms on an exercise ball can create soothing motion that helps calm their nerves and ease discomfort.
• Change of Scenery: Sometimes a change of scenery can work wonders. A quick walk around the house or stepping outside for some fresh air or a walk around the block may help shift your baby’s mood and provide a fresh perspective.
• Colic Hold: If your baby is dealing with tummy discomfort, try holding them with their tummy against your arm. This position can help ease their discomfort and calm them down.
• Calm Environment: A peaceful atmosphere can work wonders in calming a fussy baby. Soft lighting, quiet surroundings, and soothing sounds like white noise, their favorite lullaby, or running water can help settle your baby.
• Warm Bath: A warm bath can help your baby unwind and feel calm. Gently massaging their back or tummy while they’re in the bath can add an extra touch of comfort.
• Infant Massage: Gentle movement, like the “bicycle legs” exercise, can help your baby release gas, ease discomfort, and provide much-needed comfort and relief. Combining tummy time with a soothing massage not only helps your baby relax but also supports their physical development and strengthens their muscles.

When to be Concerned

Taking care of a fussy baby is tough, and it’s easy to feel worn out. Be kind to yourself, and remember, it’s okay to ask for help. While most fussiness is normal and not a cause for alarm, there are times when you’ll want to consult with your baby’s healthcare provider.^1,2,3

What If I Have Questions?

If you are interested in learning more, these Aeroflow classes expand on some of the topics discussed above:

• Babycare for the Breastfed Baby
• Babywearing & Breastfeeding
• Mom Circle

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