Becoming a mother is an exciting, challenging, and sometimes overwhelming journey. Whether you’re expecting your first baby or welcoming another into your family, having a strong support system is essential. Your “Mother/Baby Village” is the network of people who can help you navigate pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, and the early months of motherhood. This guide will help you understand the importance of finding your village, who should be part of it, and how to build it with love and care.

What is a “Mother/Baby Village”?

Think of your “Mother/Baby Village” as your personal team—people who will offer emotional, physical, and practical support as you go through the ups and downs of pregnancy and postpartum. This village can include your partner, family, friends, healthcare providers, and even community groups. Everyone in your village has something important to offer, and together they help you feel more connected and less alone during this life-changing time.¹

Why is it Important?

Having a strong support system helps you feel more confident, reduces stress, and gives you someone to turn to when things feel tough. No one expects you to do it all on your own, and it’s okay to ask for help. A loving and understanding village can also help you learn new things, share advice, and provide emotional support as you adjust to motherhood. Feeling connected to others who understand what you’re going through can make all the difference and lead to a healthier and happier birth, breastfeeding, and mothering experience.¹ 

Building Your Village: Key People to Include

Your Mother/Baby Village is unique to you and your needs. Here are some of the people who might be part of your village:¹

• Your Partner: If you have a partner, they can be your biggest ally. They’re there for emotional support, sharing household responsibilities, and helping care for the baby.
• Family: Parents, siblings, and close relatives can be a source of love and care. They may offer help with baby care, cooking, or even just keeping you company during those first few weeks.
• Friends: A friend can be someone to talk to when you’re feeling down, laugh with when you need a break, or ask questions about parenting. If they’re already parents, they can share helpful advice and personal experiences.
• Support Groups: There are many groups for new mothers, both in person and online. Joining a group, such as Aeroflow’s Moms Circle can connect you with other women who are experiencing the same joys and challenges. These groups can offer emotional support, tips on baby care, and even fun activities and meet-ups. 
• Healthcare Providers: Your doctor, midwife, pediatrician, and Lactation Consultant are key members of your village. Don’t hesitate to ask questions or share your concerns, no matter how small they might seem.
• Professional Help: Sometimes you might need extra support. A postpartum doula, therapist, or even a cleaning service can be a great addition to your village. These professionals can provide specialized care to help you feel your best during this busy time.²

Ways to Build Your Village

Creating a support system takes time, but it’s worth the effort. Here are some ways you can start building your Mother/Baby Village:¹

• Reach Out to Your Family and Friends: Don’t be afraid to ask for help. If you’re feeling tired or overwhelmed, let someone know. Whether it’s asking for someone to cook dinner or watch the baby for a couple hours, reaching out is a big step toward building a village.
• Join Parenting Groups: Look for local groups for pregnant women or new mothers. Many communities and churches have moms’ meet-ups, breastfeeding support groups, or baby playgroups. These can be great places to meet people and share experiences.
• Take Classes: Prenatal classes, childbirth education, or baby care classes can not only give you useful knowledge but also help you meet other expecting parents. You can learn together and form lasting friendships.
• Communicate with Your Healthcare Team: Let your doctor, midwife, pediatrician, or lactation consultant know what you need. They may have resources to connect you with support services, counselors, or other parents who can help you along the way.
• Online Communities: Social media and online forums can provide support and advice from professionals and other parents. There are many Facebook Groups, Instagram Pages, blogs, and websites that focus on pregnancy and motherhood. Just be sure to seek out positive, supportive communities that make you feel good and empowered.^3,4

Taking Care of Yourself

Your village is there to support you, but it’s also important to take care of yourself.¹ Here are a few tips for maintaining your own well-being while building your support system:

What If I Have Questions?

If you are interested in learning more, these Aeroflow classes expand on some of the topics discussed above:

• It Takes A Village
• Moms Circle

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